We live in a world that says, “If it’s not a full yes, it’s a no.” But that oversimplifies what it means to be human. We experience ambivalence in so many places—our careers, parenting, major life decisions. Why wouldn’t it show up in love too? And yet, we put pressure on love to rise above that complexity. But love—like life—is not black and white.

Sometimes, things feel hard.
Relationships. Careers. Parenting. Life in general.
We all go through times or seasons of struggle—and I imagine most of us wish those moments away while we’re in them. I know I do. But what if the very struggles we face are preparing us to hold the very things we’ve been asking for?

Vulnerable question: Have you ever wondered, “Am I hard to love?”
It’s a story that started shaping itself in my adolescence. I had already learned that the best way to stay emotionally safe in my family was to earn my dad’s approval—by excelling in school, following the ‘rules,’ and being ‘good.’ So, when I experienced rejection from my crushes, it wasn’t a far stretch to assume the problem was me. That there was something wrong with me.

Just like stretching our muscles increases our physical flexibility, stretching beyond our comfort zone increases our flexibility in how we navigate life. When we stay within what’s familiar, we may feel safe—but we also risk becoming rigid, making it harder to adapt to life's inevitable shifts and challenges.

What does it mean to be alive? Is it simply getting through another day? Is it about the moments and connections that make us feel deeply present? Or is it about something else entirely—something less about what we do, and more about how we choose to show up?

We often hear the phrase, "If it’s meant to be, it will just work." Whether it’s about romance, friendship, or family, there’s a common belief that the best relationships should feel effortless—that they’ll withstand anything simply because they’re strong enough…
It’s a comforting idea, but relationships—no matter how deep—don’t flourish on their own.

“I would never do that!”
Have you ever caught yourself thinking or saying that? Maybe it was about how someone voted, how they handled a challenge, or even something as simple as how they dress. I get it—I’ve said it too. It’s a thought that draws a line between “us” and “them,” focusing on our differences. And often, underneath that thought is the assumption that the difference is a reflection of character—that they must be wired differently than we are.

…just like every other aspect of personal growth, self-trust isn’t something we learn once and master forever. It comes in layers. And often, we are asked to learn it again and again—especially in seasons of transition.

I don’t know about you, but the last few weeks have felt like that’ve come with more twists and turns than I’d typically like to navigate. Some have felt bigger, some smaller, but together, they just felt like too much.

The patterns and beliefs we avoid acknowledging are often the very ones shaping our lives. We may not realize that the choices we make trying to avoid certain feelings or hard truths end up giving them more power. In avoiding, we build a life around resistance instead of one grounded in love and alignment.
So, how do we get from resistance to release? For me, it’s through the practice of softening.

There’s a lot of talk about taking care of ourselves, and I often share about living in alignment with our core values. But what do we do when taking care of ourselves or living in alignment might hurt someone we care about?

If we want to build something meaningful, we have to show up consistently. Jeff Walker calls this “doing the reps”. It’s about those boring, repetitive actions we need to take every day—the habits that create a strong foundation.

Why? It’s often the first thing we ask when life doesn’t go as planned. We want to understand why something happened, what caused it, or how we might prevent it in the future. But sometimes, there is no satisfying “why.”

From the moment we’re born, we’re surrounded by messages—what to believe, how to act, who to be. Many of these messages come from people who care about us, but even well-meaning advice often reflects someone else’s experiences, fears, or hopes. Over time, it’s easy to lose touch with our own voice and start living according to what others think we should do.

Have you ever found yourself caught in a loop of "what ifs"? Maybe you’re weighing a decision, and all you can focus on are the potential downsides or everything that might go wrong…It can feel like you’re doing the responsible thing by analyzing every possibility. Is this overthinking keeping us stuck?

I’m not here to tell you that “time heals all wounds” or that “you’ll be fine.” The truth is, heartache isn’t logical. It pulls at old threads of rejection, unworthiness, and fears of being alone. It’s messy and deeply human.

Are you ready to hit the ground running this year? If, like me, you found December draining and exhausting, your first reaction might be, “Not yet!” And that’s okay. Sometimes, just the thought of starting something new feels overwhelming, especially when our energy is running low. How are we supposed to muster that kind of drive?

As we approach a new year, the familiar buzz of resolutions fills the air. Goals, plans, and checklists often take centre stage, and while reflection is a powerful practice, it’s easy to lose sight of an essential question: Who are we being beneath all the doing?

The holiday season is upon us and while it’s often portrayed as a time of comfort and joy, for many of us it, can feel quite the opposite. Festive gatherings might instead bring discomfort, sadness, or grief – or maybe you’re navigating a mix of it all.

What do you do when you’re feeling anxious? Frustrated? Generally upset?….. Many of us instinctively try to dull or escape uncomfortable emotions…because we’ve never been taught how to sit with or process them.